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I came across an article in MarketWatch that got me thinking, and then it got Deb and I talking. It is called “5 Things You’ll Wish You Knew Before Retirement<\/a>“. They surveyed financial planners, asking about their clients biggest regrets in retirement. They start off with the throwaway sentence that “even those who saved plenty wished they’d done some things differently”. I will mention that we are not immune to the economic impact that COVID-19 has had on the worldwide economy. But we put together a good plan some time ago, and now is not the time to abandon it. It’s proving to be a good plan in spite of the times. So far so good, but wish us (all) luck!<\/p>\n I will also say that we have absolutely zero regrets at this point, but it’s good to go through some of this and take account from time to time, especially now as we approach another (the third) anniversary of our retirement. The article I mentioned discussed five common regrets that retired couples have:<\/p>\n Let’s see how we stack up to these issues, one by one.<\/p>\n We can’t agree more with this. Whether you go on ocean cruises, cruise around in your motorhome or car, fly to exotic (or even not-so-exotic) places, Deb and I encourage travel for everyone. You’ll find that everyone is different, yet they are also somehow the same. It’s a beautiful dichotomy, and one that makes life much more interesting. Go with an open mind and talk with people you meet – you will all be richer for it. And the early part of retirement is the time to do this – don’t wait until you’re too old to travel!<\/p>\n Of course, you don’t have to wait until retirement to travel, and you shouldn’t. It’s just a great time to do it when you are unencumbered by those pesky jobs and other responsibilities. The financial advisor in me says that early spending (like on travel) is worse than later spending because of those compounding effects. But retired people have the time to pick cheaper dates to travel, and if they are like us, they also don’t have the need to live large while traveling – we meet more interesting people in “regular” places than in fancy ones.<\/p>\n We toured a bit of Florida right after leaving Colorado, and then went off to a couple of Caribbean islands in Honduras before going to Puerto Rico. If you’ve read much of this blog, you know we’ve spent most of our time on a little island called Vieques. Lately, we’ve been spending a bit more time on “La Isla” as our friends call it, the main island of PR. We’d also like to hop over to Culebra, another Puerto Rican island, as soon as the opportunity arises. Other travel is being discussed – hardly a week goes by that we don’t talk about St. Maarten, Guadeloupe, or someplace else. Travel is a key part of a happy retirement in my opinion, and millions of people seem to agree. The key is to do it while you can still get around well enough to enjoy it.<\/p>\n\t Retirement is defined as the act of withdrawing from your job\/career, usually due to age, but that’s been redefined in recent years to some extent. So it’s about retiring from<\/em> something, the job. And getting away from the stress and time constraints of a job is a great reason to retire. You can finally live life on your own terms, and do what you want, when you want. That’s in contrast to work-life, doing what someone else wants you to do, on their schedule rather than your own. This would be your own boss and the company you work for, or if you are a business owner yourself, your customers are the boss and your job is to meet their needs. Either way, you can find your time isn’t really yours, but that’s also why you get paid!<\/p>\n As much as retirement is about leaving something behind, it should also be about moving toward<\/em> something. What is that something? In previous posts, we discussed the Japanese concept of ikigai, a reason for living in retirement. Much has been written on this subject, but for us it has been, and continues to be about exploring new things. New places, new languages, new cultures. But there are many new things to explore right back in the States as well. It’s such an enormous country, there is much to delve into, much to seek out. We’re looking forward to more of our ikigai explorations in the future, wherever the wind might blow us.<\/p>\n\t When we left Colorado for a warmer climate, we left many friends (and family members) behind. And that is not without its hardships; those emotional strings are strong. One friend there asked me specifically about this – what about all your friends here? I told him that we’d stay in touch with technology (this blog, Facetime, texts, emails), we’d come back to visit, and our CO friends can come visit us as well. I also told him we’d make new friends as well – this is so important that it is one of the questions asked when calculating life expectancy<\/a>. That’s one thing we’ve tried to do wherever we go – to make new friends. Some are closer than others, but if our stops were more than a couple of days, we’ve made friends in every waypoint.<\/p>\n I learned from my step-mother years ago that wait staff at restaurants and bars often have great stories, and great lives beyond the normal “What can I get you today?”. You just have to be friendly and chat a little, people love to talk about themselves. You will be rewarded for simply being interested in them. It becomes less of a business transaction and more of a feeling of having a meal or a drink with a new friend. But don’t be rude – only do this if they’re not busy! But some of the people we’ve met this way read the blog and others we stay in touch with and visit when we return to their area.<\/p>\n\t For example, we met a fun young lady in a beachfront hotel bar in Melbourne Beach that we stay in touch with (Hi Jen!). We met quite a cast of characters in Utila, including the famous Mamita who inspired a blog post<\/a>. We still keep in touch with a pet-loving friend we met in Roat\u00e1n (Marti!). We have many friends in Vieques, some very close, and a few on the main island of Puerto Rico as well. We also have met some fun tourists – this summer I’m even going to be officiating the wedding of a great couple we’ve become close friends with!<\/p>\n\t\t\t\t\n\t\tMamita!\n\t I like to think of these friends as a trail of breadcrumbs leading back from where we came. So in our minds, the solution to having more friends is making<\/em> more friends. Some will be close, some less so, but all of them enrich our lives. Our old friends remain locked in our hearts as well, we hope to see more of them as time goes by.<\/p>\n\t This is a trap we’ve avoided mostly by planning our next adventure, and the next one. It reminds us that owning a house doesn’t make perfect sense right now. We may not avoid it forever, but at some point in the future, if we do decide to buy, we’re hopeful that a good plan will make it work for us. The key is thinking ahead and not just buying another house because you’ve always had one.<\/p>\n\n
Travel While We Can<\/h2>\n
Retire To Something<\/h2>\n
Have More Friends<\/h2>\n
Don’t Buy the House<\/h2>\n